Team Twin

An ode to daddies everywhere… A little while ago, on the breastfeeding forum I am a part of, someone asked about how best to support their wife when she gives birth to twins in a few months.  Lots of responses followed, not least those that simply acknowledged the poster for even bothering to ask this…

Helping Hands

The four things that really make a difference to new parents…. We have been overwhelmed by all the kindness and generosity we have received since having the twins. Family and friends have rallied round us with touching regularity and sensitivity, and the difference they have made to our day-to-day existence has been immeasurable. There are…

Judgement Day

“Parenting was so much easier when I raised my non-existent children hypothetically.” Oh how true is this? It’s so easy to sit on the calm, quiet, clean, tidy, well-rested, well-fed side of the fence and pass judgement on all the ways you will and won’t parent your child. It’s so easy to see a screaming…

In defence of Instagram…

Little squares of light in the dark… I am never more glued to my phone than when I have a newborn baby. Breastfeeding constantly means long periods of enforced sitting with only one hand to spare, as well as minimal brain capacity and an inability to concentrate for more than a few moments at a…

Second Chance Saloon

Getting it right, second time around… Having your second (or in our case second and third) baby is, in many ways, a chance to get it right the second time around. A chance to have another go, armed with the benefit of hindsight, forethought, confidence and a sense of being slightly more qualified for the…

Home & Heart

New house, new babies… This is a rather belated post, being as we moved into our new house in June. But hey, we’ve been just a little bit busy…! On New Year’s Eve last year, R and I went out for dinner at our fabulous local pub, while our grandparents babysat. We chatted about the…

Feeding Two

Breastfeeding twins, the story so far… When we started telling people that we were not only pregnant again, but pregnant with twins, one of the first, and most common things, that came up, was how I was going to feed them. It seems in many ways an odd question to ask a mother-to-be – I…

The Republic of Motherhood

A dear friend sent me this poem a few days ago, and I wanted to share it with you. Written by poet Liz Berry, The Republic of Motherhood, recently published in Granta, is a beautifully-crafted vision of the realities of motherhood, in all its searing painful, euphoric beauty. With perfect precision she covers the simplicity…

Birth Without Fear

Birthing the boys, and being in control… As readers of the blog will know, I spent a lot of time when I was pregnant working on resetting the fears that remained after my first birth – an experience that felt out of control from the moment it started, and that felt as if decisions were…