Four Years

Elsa turned four this weekend… This birthday has taken me more by surprise than any other she has had. Perhaps because, since she turned three, there have been two other people in our lives to distract me from how much she is growing and changing. In fact, it is only when I look back at…

Safe and Close

Separation Anxiety and the High Needs Baby…. I wrote recently on Instagram about our struggles with separation anxiety and  coping with a ‘high needs baby’. I was quite amazed by the responses from so many people who had experienced, or were still experiencing, similar issues, even if they didn’t know what they were dealing with at…

Dark Thoughts

It’s Maternal Mental Health Week this week. A really important thing to keep drawing attention to. I didn’t think much about my mental health when I had my daughter, because, aside from the usual shock of new parenting, I was really, actually fine. Twins, however, has been a different thing entirely. Parenting twins has not…

Team Twin

An ode to daddies everywhere… A little while ago, on the breastfeeding forum I am a part of, someone asked about how best to support their wife when she gives birth to twins in a few months.  Lots of responses followed, not least those that simply acknowledged the poster for even bothering to ask this…

Helping Hands

The four things that really make a difference to new parents…. We have been overwhelmed by all the kindness and generosity we have received since having the twins. Family and friends have rallied round us with touching regularity and sensitivity, and the difference they have made to our day-to-day existence has been immeasurable. There are…

Judgement Day

“Parenting was so much easier when I raised my non-existent children hypothetically.” Oh how true is this? It’s so easy to sit on the calm, quiet, clean, tidy, well-rested, well-fed side of the fence and pass judgement on all the ways you will and won’t parent your child. It’s so easy to see a screaming…

In defence of Instagram…

Little squares of light in the dark… I am never more glued to my phone than when I have a newborn baby. Breastfeeding constantly means long periods of enforced sitting with only one hand to spare, as well as minimal brain capacity and an inability to concentrate for more than a few moments at a…

The Republic of Motherhood

A dear friend sent me this poem a few days ago, and I wanted to share it with you. Written by poet Liz Berry, The Republic of Motherhood, recently published in Granta, is a beautifully-crafted vision of the realities of motherhood, in all its searing painful, euphoric beauty. With perfect precision she covers the simplicity…

Here come the boys…

And so, our little twins arrived last week. Welcome to the family, Felix and Monty… What a week or so it has been. Our boys arrived on 19 August, after a great labour and birth where we felt in control, calm and happy throughout. Felix – 6lbs – was born first, a good strong cry,…